Are You Mixing With The Wrong People?

Have you ever noticed it is very difficult to feel confident and good about yourself in the presence of people who are critical, judgemental, cynical & dominant. Their negativity creates a very cold atmosphere.

On the other hand, have you noticed how confident you feel in the presence of people who are naturally warm, encouraging & supportive?

I realise now that it’s the times in my life where I have had unconditional support and love…when I have belonged to an empowering group of people or have been blessed with incredible friends, that I have been able to find my courage and strength, and step into a greater version of myself…

I was thinking back on my life this morning and the highs and lows I have felt…and how closely these feelings have fallen into synch with changes to those people that were in my close circles at the time.

When I think back to around 10 years a go, I was in a low place…and the people in my life reflected that…a husband who was soon to leave the family home and a ‘best friend’ who one minute was so full of herself that she put me down and the next was so ‘down’ that I felt guilty that I did not have her come live with me so that I could look after her…
 

However luckily, time moves on and around two years later, I had gathered my courage and moved on from both of these negative influences and it gave me the space to look at my life differently…

Shortly after, I was extremely lucky. I found two incredible friends who were selfless and encouraged me with positive words and attitude. They constantly pointed out my qualities and made me focus upon them…and of course, when they told me I was great, I didn’t believe them!…but it was sewing the seeds for a mindset shift that was destined to come later…

You see, these two wonderful friends focused on my qualities and complimented me over and over. And friends like that are a god-send because I’ve come to discover, that whatever you hear over and over, you eventually begin to believe…and gradually this incredible support changed the way I saw myself and for these two friends I shall be forever grateful…

And having begun my personal mind shift, next came the business one…

Working alone on my first business was to my own design. I had felt weak and stupid for a big chunk of my life and I guess I ran away from feeling that way any time I felt I could get pulled back in…

So around 5 years ago, when I first stepped out as an entrepreneur, I was fiercely independent. I remember not wanting to ask for help as, for me, it felt like a sign of weakness…and I couldn’t bear the thought of any part of my success being down to anyone else but me! I had a lot to prove to myself…

But this was a lonely place to be. It was tough..and frankly, not that much fun…

However I guess I needed to go through that ‘independent’ stage and feel successful for myself to prepare me and allow me to then enter into a new and better stage of my life…’Inter-dependence’.

Inter-dependence was a shift in my unconscious mind…it was a change in hard-wired beliefs about what it means to be successful…

I had to change and believe something new. For me, I chose to believe that being my best was the only way I could help others to the fullest of my potential, and the only way to be my best was to be open to allow others to help me get there…

I have to work at it every day – those old beliefs can be tough to shift – but now I’ve experienced the joy of inter-dependence, seriously, I wouldn’t change it for the world!

You see, inter-dependence is the best of both worlds. It’s knowing your own mind but having the help and support of others on the same mission as you. It’s team work. It’s bags of fun and it’s the most satisfying way to build a business that I can imagine…

I have got to a place in my life where I understand the importance of surrounding myself with those wanting a higher level of living….those with vision…with passion and purpose…those that can teach me….those I can teach…those who can sweep me up and take me with them to the top…

As I look back on my life, it now seems obvious to me..

If you want to know where you’ll be in 5 years time…take a look at those you surround yourself with each day…

And if you know you can be more….if you have a sneaky suspicion that you were born to fly…

Then, seriously, get yourself amongst those who can help you do it…find a pro-active peer group of successful people who are on the same mission as you…

A group of people you enjoy…who you respect for their success….and who support & truly enjoy the success they see in others…

For me, that group has been the SFM…

These are people who will not only love you for who you really are….but will show you that you are so, so much more…

Remember we perform at our best around warm people, so make sure you have these people in your life, to cheer you on and remind you of your qualities and support you towards your success. Be aware of who they are, and aim to spend time with them as often as you can!

To Your Success!

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Spread Your Wings & Become Part of the SFM HERE
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My Poem – The Beauty of Life

CS_SunsetFor me, Truth is a life of adventure and fun

And exploring a world full of stars & warm sun

For me, Beauty is the rolling waves of the ocean

And feeling the strength & the power of it’s motion

My Life is Poetry in motion when, destiny’s path is as clear as smooth glass

And each day I’m greater than each day that’s past

My Gift to the world is empowering women

I’ll give it by shining a light where it’s dimming

And if I could tell the story of who I am with the whole of my heart…

I know the story would change, but here’s how I’d start

I am grateful for all of my life’s great creation

And for others who have given me divine inspiration

 

by Claire Smith

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Could Your Expertise Be Earning You Money?

If you’re already an entrepreneur, my guess is that you have already chosen a business area that you have a deep interest in, and feel connected to, and if that’s the case, then fantastic!

However, if not, or if you are starting a new business from scratch, you may have a little work to do to spice up your business so that it makes you want to sing it’s praises from the rooftops!

The key is to think of ways to use your business as a vehicle to fulfil your need to contribute to the people & world around you, your passions and your feelings of purpose in some ways, so that you can ‘feel’ that the work you are doing within your business meets a greater purpose than purely creating an income.

There are several benefits to this. The obvious one is that it will surely make working on your business day to day far more enjoyable and fulfilling, however there is a reason that pertains specifically to your online marketing…

It’s to do with personal branding…

Your online marketing mission is to connect with your audience at a very personal level, build rapport and build a relationship with them. So unless you have first connected with yourself…and have a love for what you are providing…unless you are clear about & understand what drives you to do what you do, you will be missing a very important foundation to successful online marketing. Believe it or not, Marketing is an emotional business.

We want others to share our beliefs, and start to get to know, like & trust us, and see the benefits of our products and services…we want to inspire them & help them change the way they feel about themselves and their life for the better…

The beautiful result of your obvious passion and positive energy about your business, is that people will be naturally attracted to you, without the hard sell…helping you to create the wealth you need to be happy and in control of your life in a way that it enjoyable and fulfilling.

So I wonder, could you share your existing expertise in an area you enjoy?

You may think “there’s no way I’m an expert in anything”! … But thats not true…

We live in the information age, and there’s a new industry emerging, and it’s called the expert industry…

Career-wise, I am a qualified insurance broker, I’m a qualified garden designer, and a qualified tattooist, but when it came to my online business, my expertise instead stemmed from my life experience…

In life, I am an expert at creating feelings of empowerment for myself and others…I am a mother…I am a business woman…I love adventure…all of these areas of expertise show up in Al!ve Woman…they make my brand what it is…

I could have fulfilled my passions through chosen to build a company around selling adventure holidays online…or providing parenting advice to other mums, however, I chose to indulge my passion for empowering others through starting an online business…that excited me most…

So consider what you are already an expert in…what knowledge do you have that others may not? Could you turn this into your business?

What do you feel enthusiastic about? What would interest you and be enjoyable to work on every day?

If you worry that you dont have the technical know-how to start an online business, don’t worry as the SFM can provide all of the training and tools you need…

Girl throwing leaves in airFollow your passion and provide your value to the world and everything will flow naturally into place…I wish you every success…you deserve a great life.

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